Getting it into your agent
One page per mod, every tool's command on it. A separate URL per tool would split the same page into five that compete with each other.
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Counted locally with the o200k_base tokenizer, which is exact for GPT models; Claude uses its own tokenizer and its counts differ. Treat this as one consistent yardstick across the catalogue rather than a bill. Prices are per million input tokens.
| Model | Per session | Once invoked |
|---|---|---|
| Fable 5.1 | $0.00057 | $0.04230 |
| Opus 5 | $0.00028 | $0.02115 |
| Sonnet 5 | $0.00011 | $0.00846 |
| Haiku 4.5 | $0.00006 | $0.00423 |
Grade A, and why
非暴力沟通-nonviolent-communication scanned grade A with 0 findings against 26 rules in 11 categories — prompt injection, anti-refusal, data exfiltration, privilege escalation, supply chain, agent snooping, system-prompt leakage, SSRF and excessive agency — measured 13d ago.
A static scan of the body, not an audit. Every finding is printed with the line that produced it so you can judge whether it matters here. A mod is markdown that instructs an agent; that is exactly why what it instructs is worth reading.
Nothing flagged
None of the 26 patterns this scan looks for appear in this file: no shell pipes, no recursive deletes, no credential paths, no hidden text, no instruction-override or anti-refusal phrasing, no agent-config snooping. That is not a guarantee, it is the absence of the things that are checkable.
How it starts
The opening of the file, as written. The whole thing — 349 lines — stays where its author put it; the contents beside it link to each section on GitHub.
《非暴力沟通》— 四步让你的话被真正听见
当语言从「你让我生气」变成「我感到……因为我需要……」，冲突就从对抗变成了连接。
马歇尔·卢森堡的核心主张：暴力不仅存在于肢体冲突，更存在于日常语言。 指责、比较、评判、强求——这些「疏离生命的沟通」每天都在切断人与人之间的连接。非暴力沟通不是让你「说话好听」，而是让你说话真实且不伤人——用四步把指责变成请求，把对抗变成合作。
OFNR 四步法
观察（Observation）→ 感受（Feeling）→ 需要（Need）→ 请求（Request）
↑ │
└── 每一步都为下一步提供基础，缺一不可 ────────────────┘
| 步骤 | 核心问题 | 错误示范 | 正确示范 |
|---|---|---|---|
| 观察 | 我看到了什么？（不加评判） | 「你总是迟到」 | 「这周三次会议你都在9:05之后到的」 |
| 感受 | 我现在的感受是什么？（不包藏指责） | 「我觉得你不在乎我」 | 「我感到失落和担心」 |
| 需要 | 我背后的需要是什么？（真实需求） | 「我需要你更负责任」 | 「我需要尊重和效率」 |
| 请求 | 你愿意做什么？（具体可操作） | 「你能不能靠谱一点？」 | 「下次你愿意提前5分钟到吗？」 |
第一步：观察 — 说事实，不说故事
不带评论的观察，是人类智力的最高形式。——克里希那穆提
区分观察与评论，是非暴力沟通最难的第一步。
观察 vs 评论
| 评论（Evaluation） | 观察（Observation） |
|---|---|
| 你太懒了 | 你这周三次说要去健身，但都没去 |
| 他工作不认真 | 他的报告连续两次有数据错误 |
| 你总是忽视我 | 我说话的时候，你这三次都在看手机 |
| 你从来不守信用 | 你答应周三交，今天周五还没给我 |
| 他是个差劲的队友 | 他在项目会议上一共发言了两次 |
关键词警报：当你使用「总是」「从不」「经常」「很少」这些词时——停下来，问自己：这是事实，还是我的放大？
实践检查清单
- 去掉副词：「总是」「从来」「每次」「从不」
- 去掉标签：「懒」「笨」「不负责」「自私」
- 像摄像头一样描述：谁在什么时间什么地点做了什么？
- 自问：如果对方和我一起看监控录像，我们看到的是一样的东西吗？
第二步：感受 — 说情绪，不说想法
在非暴力沟通中，感受没有对错。感受只是信使。
很多人以为在说感受，其实在说想法——而想法里往往藏着指责。
感受 vs 想法
| 想法（包藏指责） | 感受（单纯的情绪） |
|---|---|
| 我觉得你不在乎我 | 我感到孤独、伤心 |
| 我感觉被攻击了 | 我感到紧张、害怕 |
| 我觉得这不公平 | 我感到愤怒和委屈 |
| 你让我很生气 | 我很生气 |
| 我感觉被抛弃了 | 我感到恐惧和孤单 |
核心区别：想法以「你」开头或暗示对方的错，感受只说「我」的情绪状态。
「你让我生气」→ 把情绪的遥控器交给了对方。
「我感到愤怒，因为我需要尊重」→ 收回遥控器，为自己的情绪负责。
感受词汇表
当需要得到满足时：满足、欣慰、兴奋、放松、感激、温暖、安全、信任、活力、喜悦、好奇、自豪、平静、感动、释然
当需要没有得到满足时：愤怒、失望、焦虑、孤独、委屈、紧张、疲惫、无助、沮丧、烦躁、嫉妒、伤心、内疚、麻木、恐惧、不安
第三步：需要 — 说需求，不说策略
每个感受背后，都有一个未被满足的需要。暴力源于对需要的看不到。
这是 OFNR 中最容易被跳过但最关键的一步。大部分冲突卡住，不是因为需求不可调和——而是因为需求根本没被说出口。人们争论的是「策略」（你该怎么做），而不是「需要」（我到底要什么）。
策略 vs 需要
| 策略（你怎么做） | 需要（我要什么） |
|---|---|
| 你每天要给我发消息 | 我需要连接和安全感 |
| 你必须周末陪我 | 我需要陪伴和亲密 |
| 你应该把家务做了 | 我需要秩序和分担 |
| 你不要再批评我了 | 我需要尊重和被看见 |
What this file has done since we first saw it
Hashed on every crawl. A supply-chain change to an agent config is a question of when, not whether, so the history is kept rather than the latest state alone.
- 13d ago First seen · 349 lines · 57 tokens per session scan A cd0228154a5d
非暴力沟通-nonviolent-communication is a skill published in the GitHub repository muyuhill/100books-to-skills (12 stars, last pushed 2mo ago), licensed MIT. It adds 57 tokens to every session and 4,230 once invoked, about $0.0003 per session on Opus 5. A static security scan graded it A with 0 findings. No closer match exists in the catalogue, so it is treated as the original; first seen 2026-08-30.
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