approaching

approaching is a skill for Claude Code from sumitaich1998/OpenDate. It costs 27 tokens per session (524 once invoked), scanned A, original, MIT.

A conversation guide for the first few messages after two people match, helping establish warmth, mutual effort, and a natural topic to continue.

In plain words
What is it for?
It is for writing opening exchanges, sharing as well as asking, following the topic that interests both people, matching message effort, and using names or earlier details.
Why use it?
It helps avoid dry interviews, one-sided questioning, overly long replies, and mismatched energy.

Skill for Claude Code

Written for Claude Code: when-to-use in frontmatter.

Good fit It is for writing opening exchanges, sharing as well as asking, following the topic that interests both people, matching message effort, and using names or earlier details.

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Install with agentmods
npx agentmods add skills/sumitaich1998/opendate/approaching
Install

Getting it into your agent

One page per mod, every tool's command on it. A separate URL per tool would split the same page into five that compete with each other.

Any agent
npx skills add sumitaich1998/OpenDate --skill approaching
Clone the repo
git clone --depth 1 https://github.com/sumitaich1998/OpenDate

Made for: Claude Code.

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A badge with what this costs and how it scanned, read live from this page, so it follows the numbers instead of freezing them. Markdown for a README, HTML for a documentation site or a project page.

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README.md
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Per session 27 Skills are progressive disclosure: only the name and description are preloaded; the body loads when the skill is used.
When invoked 524 The whole file, excluding the scripts and references it only reads on demand.
Security scan A 0 findings. A grade says what 26 rules found in the file — not that it is safe.
Origin original No closer match found in the catalogue.
Token cost

What it costs to keep this loaded

Counted locally with the o200k_base tokenizer, which is exact for GPT models; Claude uses its own tokenizer and its counts differ. Treat this as one consistent yardstick across the catalogue rather than a bill. Prices are per million input tokens.

ModelPer sessionOnce invoked
Fable 5.1 $0.00027 $0.00524
Opus 5 $0.00014 $0.00262
Sonnet 5 $0.00005 $0.00105
Haiku 4.5 $0.00003 $0.00052

Measured 8d ago against content hash 6dde892bd4d5, method: parsed. Prices are Anthropic first-party input rates as of 2026-09-08, from the pricing page.

Security

Grade A, and why

approaching scanned grade A with 0 findings against 26 rules in 11 categories — prompt injection, anti-refusal, data exfiltration, privilege escalation, supply chain, agent snooping, system-prompt leakage, SSRF and excessive agency — measured 8d ago.

A static scan of the body, not an audit. Every finding is printed with the line that produced it so you can judge whether it matters here. A mod is markdown that instructs an agent; that is exactly why what it instructs is worth reading.

Nothing flagged

None of the 26 patterns this scan looks for appear in this file: no shell pipes, no recursive deletes, no credential paths, no hidden text, no instruction-override or anti-refusal phrasing, no agent-config snooping. That is not a guarantee, it is the absence of the things that are checkable.

src/opendate/skills/registry/approaching/SKILL.md · 57 lines

What it actually says

Approaching

The opener starts the conversation; approaching is how you carry the first few turns so it has somewhere to go. The goal is a relaxed, two-sided rhythm — not an interview, not a performance.

Goals for the first exchanges

  1. Set a warm, low-pressure tone. You're glad you matched; you're curious; you're easy to talk to.
  2. Establish reciprocity. They share a little, you share a little. Never take more than you give.
  3. Find the live thread. Notice which topic gets the most energy and follow it instead of resetting.

Tactics

  • Mirror, then add. Acknowledge what they said, then contribute something of your own so they can react. Statements invite more than back-to-back questions.
  • Trade, don't interrogate. For every question you ask, offer the answer for yourself too. ("…I'm firmly team mountains, but I could be converted.")
  • Calibrate length. Roughly match their message length and effort. If they send one line, don't reply with a paragraph.
  • Bring energy up by one notch, not three. Be a touch warmer/more playful than them; let them rise to meet it.
  • Use names and callbacks. Referencing something they said two messages ago signals real attention.

Reading the room

  • High energy back (emojis, teasing, fast replies) → move toward banter / flirting.
  • Thoughtful, slower → lean into rapport-building.
  • Short / low effort → ask one genuinely interesting, specific question; if it stays flat, ease off rather than chasing.

Do / Don't

  • Do keep it balanced: share, ask, react.
  • Do let a good tangent take over.
  • Don't fire three questions in a row.
  • Don't over-invest before they've invested anything.

Output

The next message in the thread — conversational, balanced, and tuned to their energy. Hand off to the right Building skill once a live thread appears.

Changes

What this file has done since we first saw it

Hashed on every crawl. A supply-chain change to an agent config is a question of when, not whether, so the history is kept rather than the latest state alone.

  1. 8d ago First seen · 57 lines · 27 tokens per session scan A 6dde892bd4d5

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approaching is a skill published in the GitHub repository sumitaich1998/OpenDate (2 stars, last pushed 1mo ago), licensed MIT. It adds 27 tokens to every session and 524 once invoked, about $0.0001 per session on Opus 5. A static security scan graded it A with 0 findings. No closer match exists in the catalogue, so it is treated as the original; first seen 2026-08-31.

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