What is p12不恶小人待以礼?

A principle for dealing with selfish, manipulative, or difficult people without becoming hateful yourself. It separates firm boundaries from personal resentment.

Use it when deciding how to respond to someone who takes advantage of others, provokes you, or behaves unfairly. It helps distinguish protecting yourself from seeking revenge.

Responding with the same hostility can turn a conflict into retaliation and change your own behavior for the worse. Calm firmness leaves more room for a sensible response.

p12不恶小人待以礼 — Skill for Claude Code and Codex by ace3000chao

Install

Getting it into your agent

One page per mod, every tool's command on it. A separate URL per tool would split the same page into five that compete with each other.

Any agent

npx skills add ace3000chao/book2startup --skill p12

Clone the repo

git clone --depth 1 https://github.com/ace3000chao/book2startup

Made for: Claude Code, Codex.

Wrote this? Show the measurements

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README.md

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Per session 93 Skills are progressive disclosure: only the name and description are preloaded; the body loads when the skill is used.

When invoked 1,657 The whole file, excluding the scripts and references it only reads on demand.

Security scan A 0 findings. A grade says what 26 rules found in the file — not that it is safe.

Origin original No closer match found in the catalogue.

Token cost

What it costs to keep this loaded

Counted locally with the o200k_base tokenizer, which is exact for GPT models; Claude uses its own tokenizer and its counts differ. Treat this as one consistent yardstick across the catalogue rather than a bill. Prices are per million input tokens.

Model	Per session	Once invoked
Fable 5.1	$0.00093	$0.01657
Opus 5	$0.00046	$0.00829
Sonnet 5	$0.00019	$0.00331
Haiku 4.5	$0.00009	$0.00166

Measured 9d ago against content hash 0a198b90e6c6, method: parsed. Prices are Anthropic first-party input rates as of 2026-09-12, from the pricing page.

Security

Grade A, and why

p12不恶小人待以礼 scanned grade A with 0 findings against 26 rules in 11 categories — prompt injection, anti-refusal, data exfiltration, privilege escalation, supply chain, agent snooping, system-prompt leakage, SSRF and excessive agency — measured 9d ago.

A static scan of the body, not an audit. Every finding is printed with the line that produced it so you can judge whether it matters here. A mod is markdown that instructs an agent; that is exactly why what it instructs is worth reading.

Nothing flagged

None of the 26 patterns this scan looks for appear in this file: no shell pipes, no recursive deletes, no credential paths, no hidden text, no instruction-override or anti-refusal phrasing, no agent-config snooping. That is not a guarantee, it is the absence of the things that are checkable.

菜根谭skills/skills/p12/SKILL.md · 122 lines

How it starts

The opening of the file, as written. The whole thing — 122 lines — stays where its author put it; the contents beside it link to each section on GitHub.

不恶小人待以礼原则

R — 原文 (Reading)

"待小人不难于严，而难于不恶；待君子不难于恭，而难于有礼。"

— 洪应明, 《菜根谭·不恶小人有礼君子》

I — 方法论骨架 (Interpretation)

对待小人，严厉容易，不厌恶难。 严厉是外在行为，不恶是内在心态——两者都做到才是真功夫。
对待君子，恭敬容易，有礼难。 恭敬可能是表面的，有礼是发自内心的尊重——两者不同。
"不恶"不是"对他好"，是"不让他的行为污染你的内心"。 你可以不喜欢他的行为，但不要让这种不喜欢变成怨恨。
核心逻辑：和小人计较，你就变成了另一种小人。 以牙还牙的结果是双方都在用小人的逻辑互动。
对君子有礼，是让君子感受到真正的尊重，而不是表面的恭维。 有礼=尊重他的边界和人格，恭敬可能只是表演。

A1 — 书中的应用 (Past Application)

案例: 洪应明论"待小人不难于严而难于不恶"

问题: 面对小人（自私、阴险的人），应该用什么态度？
方法论的使用: 洪应明指出"严"容易做到，但"不恶"才是真正的修养——严厉是行为层面的，不恶是心理层面的
结论: 对小人不恶，意味着不让他的行为影响你的心态；你保持冷静，才能做出更好的决策
结果: 以恨换恨，永远循环；以礼化之，可能终结

A2 — 触发场景 (Future Trigger) ★

用户会在什么情境下需要这个 skill?

身边有个"小人"（自私、占便宜、背后捅刀），不知道该怎么相处时 — "我不想理他，但他总是找我麻烦"、"我该怎么应对这种人？"
被人"小人"行为伤害，愤怒想报复时 — "他这样对我，我要让他好看"、"我不能吃这个亏"
担心自己被"小人"同化时 — "和这种人打交道，我是不是也会变成这样的人？"、"我是不是该用他的方式对付他？"

语言信号 (用户的话里出现这些就应激活)

"他是小人，我该怎么对待他？"
"我不想和他一般见识，但咽不下这口气"
"他这样对我，我能怎么整他？"
"和这种人在一起我会不会变坏？"
"我该对他严厉还是客气？"

与相邻 skill 的区分

与 p07忍让为高利人利己 的区别: p07是普遍忍让原则，p12专门针对小人；p07的"让"更主动，p12的"不恶"更偏向心态
与 p15厚德载物雅量容人 的区别: p15强调宽容污垢，p12强调对小人不恶；p15是更宏观的雅量，p12是具体的小人场景

E — 可执行步骤 (Execution)

当 skill 被激活后，agent 应按以下步骤执行:

确认对方确实是"小人"——有明确的自私/恶意行为，不是简单的价值观不同
- 完成标准: 用户列举出具体的小人行为（而非主观评价）
用"不难于严而难于不恶"测试：你能做到严厉对待他的行为，但同时内心不厌恶他吗？
- 完成标准: 用户区分"行为层面的应对"和"心态层面的控制"
问用户：如果你用小人的方式对待他，你们之间会变成什么关系？
- 完成标准: 用户意识到以牙还牙的结果是两败俱伤，选择"不恶"的策略

B — 边界 (Boundary) ★

不要在以下情况使用此 skill

小人正在造成实际伤害：如欺诈、霸凌、伤害他人，此时需要正当防卫和制止，不是"不恶"
需要明确立场和底线：对恶的纵容可能是另一种恶
系统性长期压迫：持续的不恶可能强化小人的行为

作者在书中警告的失败模式

以短攻短（来自反例ce15）：揭人短处、对别人缺点耿耿于怀，结果是双方互相攻击
机制：和小人计较，你就开始用小人的逻辑和他互动，最终两败俱伤

作者的盲点 / 时代局限

现代法律框架下，面对真正的"小人"（违法者）需要用法律手段保护自己，不是简单"不恶"
"不恶"可能被滥用为对恶的容忍和合理化

容易混淆的邻近方法论

厚德载物(p15)：p15更强调包容污垢，p12更强调对小人的具体应对；p15是心态，p12是行为策略
律己宽人(p25)：p25强调对别人的过失要宽恕，p12强调对小人不恶；p25更普遍

What ships with it

1 file beside SKILL.md in the same directory: the scripts, references and assets a skill reads on demand. Not counted in the per-session cost; read them before you install if any of them is executable.

test-prompts.json 5.0 KB

Changes

What this file has done since we first saw it

Hashed on every crawl. A supply-chain change to an agent config is a question of when, not whether, so the history is kept rather than the latest state alone.

9d ago First seen · 122 lines · 93 tokens per session scan A 0a198b90e6c6

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p12不恶小人待以礼 is a skill published in the GitHub repository ace3000chao/book2startup (80 stars, last pushed 4mo ago), licensed MIT. It adds 93 tokens to every session and 1,657 once invoked, about $0.0005 per session on Opus 5. A static security scan graded it A with 0 findings. No closer match exists in the catalogue, so it is treated as the original; first seen 2026-09-03.

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