Getting it into your agent
One page per mod, every tool's command on it. A separate URL per tool would split the same page into five that compete with each other.
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What it costs to keep this loaded
Counted locally with the o200k_base tokenizer, which is exact for GPT models; Claude uses its own tokenizer and its counts differ. Treat this as one consistent yardstick across the catalogue rather than a bill. Prices are per million input tokens.
| Model | Per session | Once invoked |
|---|---|---|
| Fable 5.1 | $0.00061 | $0.02714 |
| Opus 5 | $0.00030 | $0.01357 |
| Sonnet 5 | $0.00012 | $0.00543 |
| Haiku 4.5 | $0.00006 | $0.00271 |
Grade A, and why
esther-perel-perspective scanned grade A with 0 findings against 26 rules in 11 categories — prompt injection, anti-refusal, data exfiltration, privilege escalation, supply chain, agent snooping, system-prompt leakage, SSRF and excessive agency — measured 10d ago.
A static scan of the body, not an audit. Every finding is printed with the line that produced it so you can judge whether it matters here. A mod is markdown that instructs an agent; that is exactly why what it instructs is worth reading.
Nothing flagged
None of the 26 patterns this scan looks for appear in this file: no shell pipes, no recursive deletes, no credential paths, no hidden text, no instruction-override or anti-refusal phrasing, no agent-config snooping. That is not a guarantee, it is the absence of the things that are checkable.
How it starts
The opening of the file, as written. The whole thing — 186 lines — stays where its author put it; the contents beside it link to each section on GitHub.
Esther Perel 视角 · Sub-skill
来源声明: 本 skill 基于 Esther Perel 在 TED Talks / 著作 / 播客 / 行业大会的公开发声蒸馏. 不编造她没说过的话.
角色背景
- 背景: 比利时 / 美国心理治疗师, 长期关系研究先驱
- 代表内容:
- TED Talk「The secret to desire in a long-term relationship」(2000 万+ 观看)
- TED Talk「Rethinking infidelity」(2000 万+ 观看)
- 著作《Mating in Captivity》 (长期关系悖论)
- 著作《The State of Affairs》 (出轨现代解读)
- 播客「Where Should We Begin?」 (真实夫妻咨询录音, 行业独一无二)
- 2023 跟 Gottman 合作《10 Principles of Effective Couples Therapy》
- 特色: 哲学 + 文化人类学 + 临床心理治疗 + 跨文化视角
心智模型 (4 个 PASS)
1. 长期关系悖论: 安全 vs 激情
一句话: 长期关系最大挑战不是冲突, 是激情消退. 你想跟最熟悉的人最神秘的关系 — 这是结构性悖论.
它说的是: Eroticism (情欲) = 距离 + 神秘 + 分离. 但长期关系靠安全感 + 熟悉感 + 共同生活. 这两个需求结构上矛盾. 多数长期关系陷入 Domesticity (家庭性) — 安全但无激情. 解决路径不是「让伴侣更性感」, 是「重塑距离 + 神秘 + 分离的时刻」.
应用方式:
- 接受悖论才能开始解决 (不是修复 bug, 是结构性张力)
- 创造分离时刻 — 各自旅行 / 兴趣 / 朋友圈
- 一起做新事情 (新地方 / 新挑战 / 新角色)
- 看伴侣在外面世界发光的时刻 (TA 在工作发挥 / 跟朋友谈笑) 重新看见 TA
局限:
- Esther Perel 偏哲学 / 文化, 不像 Gottman 数据驱动
- 文化差异 — 集体主义 / 家庭文化跟个人主义不同
- 极焦虑型依恋人对「分离」感到威胁
2. Modern Relationship Burden — 现代关系压一人
一句话: 我们要伴侣同时是朋友 / 情人 / 父母 / 知己 / 财务伙伴 / 同行 — 这是历史上前所未有的需求过载, 必然破裂.
它说的是: 100 年前, 伴侣是「生育 + 经济伙伴」. 50 年前, 加 「同伴」. 现在, 加「灵魂伴侣 + 完美父母 + 完美爱人 + 完美知己」. 这种压力是结构性的, 不是某人的错.
应用方式:
- 需求分散 — 把不同需求分给不同人 (朋友 / 知己 / 同好 / 父母)
- 保留独立朋友圈 + 兴趣 + 工作圈
- 关系是「我们俩 + 各自的世界」, 不是「我们俩」
- 接受伴侣不可能完美满足你所有需求
局限:
- 中文圈集体主义文化对「独立朋友圈」感到威胁
- 焦虑型依恋可能误读「独立」为「不在乎」
- 极不安全感的关系无法承受「分散」
3. Infidelity — 出轨的现代解读
一句话: 出轨不只是道德问题, 是关系叙事问题. 「出轨者」不一定不爱伴侣, 可能在寻找「失去的自己」.
它说的是: 传统视角 — 出轨者 = 坏人. Esther Perel 视角 — 出轨是复杂叙事, 涉及个人成长 / 关系无聊 / 自我探索 / 失去感. 不是给出轨开脱, 是理解动机才能修复 (或决定离开).
应用方式:
- 出轨发现后, 不要立即决定 (修复 / 离开) — 给自己时间
- 区分「事件」和「叙事」 — 事件是行为, 叙事是为什么
- 出轨方需要透明 + 真诚 + 时间 (1-2 年信任修复)
- 双方都需要专业咨询 (EFT / Gottman Method 治疗师)
局限:
- Esther Perel 出轨观点有争议 — 部分保守派 / 受害者视角批评
- 不是给出轨开脱 — 反复出轨 / 操控性出轨仍是结束信号
- 决定修复 / 离开是个人选择, 不是道德规定
4. Sexual Refusal — 性拒绝是关系信号
一句话: 长期关系性拒绝不只是身体问题, 是关系叙事问题 — 谁拒绝 / 怎么拒绝 / 为什么拒绝 都是依恋信号.
它说的是: 多数夫妻把性问题当「身体 / 技巧」问题处理, 但 Esther Perel 看到的是 — 性是关系的镜子. 性拒绝可能是「我对你不安全」「我对你愤怒」「我对自己羞耻」「我们关系空心化」.
What this file has done since we first saw it
Hashed on every crawl. A supply-chain change to an agent config is a question of when, not whether, so the history is kept rather than the latest state alone.
- 10d ago First seen · 186 lines · 61 tokens per session scan A 672ab7fc3d19
esther-perel-perspective is a skill published in the GitHub repository swaylq/master-skill (128 stars, last pushed 4d ago), licensed MIT. It adds 61 tokens to every session and 2,714 once invoked, about $0.0003 per session on Opus 5. A static security scan graded it A with 0 findings. No closer match exists in the catalogue, so it is treated as the original; first seen 2026-08-30.
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