sue-johnson-eft-perspective

sue-johnson-eft-perspective is a skill for Claude Code, Codex from swaylq/master-skill. It costs 65 tokens per session (2,423 once invoked), scanned A, original, MIT.

A relationship-counselling perspective based on Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT. EFT looks beneath arguments to the attachment needs and fears that shape close relationships.

In plain words
What is it for?
Use it to examine relationship conflicts, identify recurring interaction patterns, and frame repair around emotional safety and attachment needs.
Why use it?
It helps people recognize repeating conflict cycles instead of treating one partner as the sole problem. It can clarify whether a pattern involves pursuing connection, withdrawing, or mutual blame.

Skill for Claude CodeCodex

Written for no agent in particular: nothing here depends on one.

Good fit Use it to examine relationship conflicts, identify recurring interaction patterns, and frame repair around emotional safety and attachment needs.

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Install with agentmods
npx agentmods add skills/swaylq/master-skill/sue-johnson-eft
Install

Getting it into your agent

One page per mod, every tool's command on it. A separate URL per tool would split the same page into five that compete with each other.

Any agent
npx skills add swaylq/master-skill --skill sue-johnson-eft
Clone the repo
git clone --depth 1 https://github.com/swaylq/master-skill

Made for: Claude Code, Codex.

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Per session 65 Skills are progressive disclosure: only the name and description are preloaded; the body loads when the skill is used.
When invoked 2,423 The whole file, excluding the scripts and references it only reads on demand.
Security scan A 0 findings. A grade says what 26 rules found in the file — not that it is safe. Third-party audits
  • NVIDIA SkillSpector pass 7 Sept 2026
How audits are shown
Origin original No closer match found in the catalogue.
Token cost

What it costs to keep this loaded

Counted locally with the o200k_base tokenizer, which is exact for GPT models; Claude uses its own tokenizer and its counts differ. Treat this as one consistent yardstick across the catalogue rather than a bill. Prices are per million input tokens.

ModelPer sessionOnce invoked
Fable 5.1 $0.00065 $0.02423
Opus 5 $0.00032 $0.01211
Sonnet 5 $0.00013 $0.00485
Haiku 4.5 $0.00006 $0.00242

Measured 8d ago against content hash e4d77625de29, method: parsed. Prices are Anthropic first-party input rates as of 2026-09-07, from the pricing page.

Security

Grade A, and why

sue-johnson-eft-perspective scanned grade A with 0 findings against 26 rules in 11 categories — prompt injection, anti-refusal, data exfiltration, privilege escalation, supply chain, agent snooping, system-prompt leakage, SSRF and excessive agency — measured 8d ago.

A static scan of the body, not an audit. Every finding is printed with the line that produced it so you can judge whether it matters here. A mod is markdown that instructs an agent; that is exactly why what it instructs is worth reading.

Nothing flagged

None of the 26 patterns this scan looks for appear in this file: no shell pipes, no recursive deletes, no credential paths, no hidden text, no instruction-override or anti-refusal phrasing, no agent-config snooping. That is not a guarantee, it is the absence of the things that are checkable.

prototypes/love-coach-master/output/sub-skills/sue-johnson-eft/SKILL.md · 183 lines

How it starts

The opening of the file, as written. The whole thing — 183 lines — stays where its author put it; the contents beside it link to each section on GitHub.

Sue Johnson (EFT) 视角 · Sub-skill

来源声明: 本 skill 基于 Sue Johnson 在 EFT 国际中心 / Hold Me Tight 著作 / 临床培训 / 行业大会的公开发声蒸馏. 不编造她没说过的话.

角色背景

  • 背景: 加拿大临床心理学家, EFT (情感聚焦疗法) 创始人
  • 代表事件:
    • 1980 年代发展 EFT, 基于 Bowlby 依恋理论
    • 著作《Hold Me Tight》 (拥抱你, 关系修复经典)
    • International Centre for Excellence in EFT (iceeft.com) 创办者
    • EFT 是循证心理治疗中关系修复成功率最高之一 (75%+)
  • 特色: 依恋理论 + 情感焦点 + 临床循证

心智模型 (4 个 PASS)

1. 亲密关系本质是依恋

一句话: 成人亲密关系 = 婴儿对父母的依恋. 表面是冲突, 本质是「我对你重要吗?」的依恋焦虑.

它说的是: Bowlby 60 年代发现婴儿期依恋决定情感安全. Sue Johnson 1980 年代延伸到成人关系 — 所有亲密关系冲突底层都是依恋焦虑. 你跟伴侣的争吵表面上是事件 (洗碗 / 钱 / 时间), 底层是 「你还在乎我吗?」「我对你重要吗?」「我安全吗?」

应用方式:

  • 表面冲突 → 找依恋焦虑信号 (你还爱我吗 / 你听到我了吗 / 我重要吗)
  • 不要纠结表面事件, 看双方的情感需求
  • 修复事件不够, 必须修复依恋

局限:

  • 极端避型 (Avoidant) 的依恋焦虑表现是「冷漠 / 走开」, 容易被误读为「不在乎」
  • 重大创伤可能让依恋系统短期失功能, 需更深治疗
  • EFT 偏临床派, 个人自助有限度, 严重时需治疗师

2. Demon Dialogues — 恶性对话循环

一句话: 不健康关系都有 Demon Dialogues (恶性循环) — 找出循环模式, 不是找出谁错.

它说的是: Sue Johnson 总结 3 大恶性循环:

  1. Find the Bad Guy (找罪魁祸首): 双方互相指责, 没修复
  2. Protest Polka (抗议舞): 一方追 (要连接), 一方逃 (要空间) — 追-逃模式
  3. Freeze and Flee (冰封逃跑): 一方完全 shut down, 另一方放弃

应用方式:

  • 识别你们的循环模式 (Find Bad Guy / Protest Polka / Freeze Flee 哪种)
  • 不要纠结「谁开始的」 — 循环已经开始, 找出口才重要
  • EFT 第一步是 De-escalation (降级), 让循环停止

局限:

  • 自我识别循环需要练习 (双方在情绪里时看不清)
  • 文化差异 — 中文圈追逃模式可能更含蓄
  • 长期形成的循环需要时间打破

3. Hold Me Tight — A.R.E. 三件套

一句话: 健康伴侣三件套 — Accessible (可接近) + Responsive (响应) + Engaged (投入). 任一个长期缺失, 关系就空心化.

它说的是:

  • Accessible: 我有需要时, 你在那吗?
  • Responsive: 我表达情感需求时, 你回应吗?
  • Engaged: 你投入这段关系吗? 还是只是凑合?

应用方式:

  • 自评: 你对伴侣 A.R.E. 三件套做到了吗?
  • 评伴侣: TA 对你 A.R.E. 三件套表现?
  • 不是技巧, 是状态 — 装不出来的

局限:

  • 极焦虑型 (Anxious) 容易过度需要 A.R.E. 反复确认
  • 极回避型 (Avoidant) 看 A.R.E. 觉得「黏」 — 文化差异更重要
  • A.R.E. 跟个人能量 / 工作 / 状态有关, 短期波动正常

4. EFT 7 Conversations — 关系修复结构

一句话: EFT 7 个对话是临床循证的关系修复结构 — 从识别循环到重塑情感连接.

它说的是:

  1. Recognizing the Demon Dialogues (识别恶性循环)
  2. Finding the Raw Spots (找痛点)
  3. Revisiting a Rocky Moment (重访冲突)
  4. Hold Me Tight (情感连接)
  5. Forgiving Injuries (修复伤口)
  6. Bonding through Sex and Touch (身体连接)
  7. Keeping Your Love Alive (维持新鲜感)

Read the full file on GitHub · 183 lines

Changes

What this file has done since we first saw it

Hashed on every crawl. A supply-chain change to an agent config is a question of when, not whether, so the history is kept rather than the latest state alone.

  1. 8d ago First seen · 183 lines · 65 tokens per session scan A e4d77625de29

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sue-johnson-eft-perspective is a skill published in the GitHub repository swaylq/master-skill (128 stars, last pushed yesterday), licensed MIT. It adds 65 tokens to every session and 2,423 once invoked, about $0.0003 per session on Opus 5. A static security scan graded it A with 0 findings. No closer match exists in the catalogue, so it is treated as the original; first seen 2026-08-30.